The Best Video I Watched Today, Plus a Reminder

15.11.18

It gets said a lot. The saying, “Do not settle.”

It is said by mothers, grandmothers, and aunties to daughters, granddaughters and nieces. And it’s mostly said to single women; those in the active pursuit of finding love and companionship.

It’s a pretty corny saying really, and not to mention stupid. Like obviously Brenda I’m not just going to marry any Tom, Dick or Harry (Is that how the saying goes? And who are these men??). But when you’re single, there are inevitably going to be days where you start to feel close – close to caving, to sacrificing, to settling. Days where it feels hard to trust the timing of your life, to remember that you’re not late, and you’re not early – you are, in fact, right on time.

This video, of John Legend introducing Chrissy Teigen as the recipient of Glamour’s Women Of The Year award, reminded me of why we trust the process. This is a man who has loved his wife not in spite of, but because of, the things she hates most about herself. He has loved her through success and self-doubt, through stretch marks and magazine covers, through childbirth and postpartum depression. John’s duty is not only to remind his wife of her brilliance, but to gently push her towards it when she feels especially far away.

 


Header image by Holly Burgess for The Twenties Club