Twenty Questions with Jessica Kent
Welcome To Twenty Questions!
Every week I’ll be sharing a new twenty-something on the blog and their responses to twenty quick-fire, intimate questions about themselves. No one featured on Twenty Questions is a celebrity or public figure, and most of these people I don’t know very well, or at all. My hope is that by taking a peek into someone else’s soul you will realise that, despite our fundamental differences, we still have similar insecurities, make similar mistakes and have fought similar battles to become the people we are today.
What is your full name?
Jessica Louise Tile (pronounced Tilly) Kent.
How old are you?
How old do you feel?
35 on a good day, because…KIDS.
Where were you born, and where do you live now?
I was born and raised in Wellington, New Zealand. I currently live in Brisbane, Australia.
What do you do for work?
I am a stay-at-home Mum to my two beautiful babies, Jayla and Jude. Prior to having children I worked for a property developer as a property manager.
What do you do for fun?
I love to hit the beach whenever I get the chance, catch up with friends over a coffee or wine, and binge-watch a great Netflix series!
Did you go to university? If so, what did you study? If not, why?
I never made it to university. I had no idea what I wanted to study (and I still don’t), so jumping into something just for the sake of it didn’t feel right. I followed my boyfriend and moved to Australia with two of my girlfriends for a gap-year and never looked back.
What is your favourite movie of all time?
I am obsessed with thrillers and would never pick a comedy when browsing for something to watch. I would have to say ‘The Bone Collector’ is my favourite movie.
What is the biggest risk you have ever taken that has paid off?
I moved to the Gold Coast three days after my 18th birthday to be with my partner Jordan. He moved there to finish school and pursue a career in Rugby League. Our relationship survived a year of long-distance prior to me moving. A lot of people thought I was crazy to move countries for someone at such a young age but the risk definitely paid off! The road hasn’t always been smooth but we have grown together and supported each other in so many ways. Ten years together and two kids later we have built a life I am extremely proud of.
Hardest moment of your twenties so far?
I don’t really have a definitive moment, it was more a period of growth. Growing up with Jordan was hard. It has taken a lot for us to get to the place we are now. We always knew we would either grow together, or grow apart. In our early twenties we were both still discovering who we were as individuals, and at the same time trying to hold onto the person we had fallen in love with at the tender age of 16. There was definitely a point in our relationship where we had lost all respect for each other, and for me that is the bare minimum that is required in any relationship. It’s crucial. I think what held us together a lot of the time was the fact that we had no one else. Moving to a different country with very little family and friends was tough, so when times were hard we would always naturally gravitate back to each other for comfort.
Over the years we have fought hard to keep our love alive and I think we knew deep down that the future held something bright for us. It’s definitely satisfying seeing the life we have created together and just the other day we were speaking about how far we’ve come. I used to work two jobs to support the both of us because Jordan was still finishing his last year of college. I worked my ass off to pay for petrol, rent (I was flatting at the time) and food. I supported him when he probably needed it most and I like to think I played a big part in getting him to where he is today.
Best moment of your twenties so far?
Welcoming Jayla and Jude into our lives. Creating a human that is half of you and half of the person you love is truly something special. Both of our parents had us in their early twenties and we always agreed we wanted the same. Jordan’s career as a professional Rugby League player can sometimes make you feel like you are a decade older so naturally it felt like the right time for us to have kids.
Who do you miss?
My Nana. She passed away three years ago and there is so much more I wish I could have asked her. Her generation is so interesting and have so much to offer, I just wish I could have realised that at the age of 17 while I was still living in the same city as her.
What do you like the most about yourself?
I had to think hard about this one. I have always been awkward when it comes to these types of questions, mainly because I don’t want to sound like I’m blowing my own trumpet. I guess my ability to put others needs before my own while still staying sane (just), and adapting to different situations, which I think is vital when you’re with a professional athlete.
What do you like the least about yourself?
I am probably the worst procrastinator you will ever meet. Something I am forever trying to work on. Being a mum and procrastinating do not mix.
If you had to get a tattoo, what would you get and where would you get it? If you already have tattoos, which is your favourite and why?
I would probably get ‘Jayla’ and ‘Jude’ tattooed in my own handwriting, or maybe even their own handwriting once they’re old enough to put pen to paper. Very small and somewhere that can be covered up.
I have one tattoo and it’s actually so embarrassing; the outline of New Zealand (LOL) on my left hipbone. I got it when I was seventeen before moving to Australia, you know, in case I forgot where I came from *insert palm to face emoji*. I definitely wouldn’t use the word “favourite”. Why no one talked me out of it is beyond me! After having two kids it has slightly stretched and now looks 3D. STOKED.
How would your friends describe you?
Loyal, creative, a great listener, a fun time on the drink and horrible at messaging people back.
How would your parents describe you?
They would also probably say I’m horrible at messaging people back (sorry Mum and Dad), passionate, loyal, polite and respectful.
When was the last time you cried?
Last Friday night when I was slightly drunk, coming to the realisation that one of my best friends is moving to Auckland in January.
What are you afraid of?
Snakes and spiders! I picked a really great place to move to right?!
If you could start your twenties again, what would you do differently?
I would definitely be smarter with my money. I was too caught up in partying and drinking every weekend to think about anything else. I would also care less about what people think of me. Approaching the end of my twenties I am definitely a lot more confident with myself and who I am as a person. I am very selective with my time and who I share it with. I guess your twenties is a great time to learn and grow.
With mistakes come lessons.