Twenty Questions with Siobhan Fulton

26.11.17

Welcome To Twenty Questions!

Every week I’ll be sharing a new twenty-something on the blog and their responses to twenty quick-fire, intimate questions. No one featured on Twenty Questions is a celebrity or public figure, and most of these people I don’t know very well, or at all. My hope is that by taking a peek into someone else’s soul you will realise that, despite our fundamental differences, we still have similar insecurities, make similar mistakes and have fought similar battles to become the people we are today.

Siobhan Fulton, 27

 

What is your full name?

Siobhan Fulton but I don’t get called that very often. Most people call me Shav or Shiv (and more recently “soy” thanks to an article on The Betoota Advocate.

  

How old are you? 

27.

  

How old do you feel?

27 I think, but I feel young. Seeing some of my friends getting married and having kids is crazy because I am years away from wanting that. I think parents are such amazing people because you have to give your whole self to another person.

  

Where were you born, and where do you live now?

I was born in Pukekohe and grew up in Mangatangi, New Zealand (Google it). Now I live at the beach in Sydney, at a lovely little place called Coogee with one of my best mates Rexy.

  

What do you do for work?

I work for a wonderful family in their family businesses, both retail and hospitality, and look after their beautiful babies who I have been lucky enough to watch grow up. I also nanny what feels like every child in Coogee under the age of three.

  

What do you do for fun?

Cooking dinner for friends, swims at the beach, going on big walks in the national parks around Sydney, hanging with animals, talking, and drinking wine with friends.

  

Did you go to university? If so, what did you study? If not, why?

When I first left school I went to Victoria University in Wellington and studied Arts. The study part definitely came second; the friendships university brought me and continue to bring me so many years later is the best part. All of my greatest friendships are from Wellington or because of Wellington. Now I am studying a Bachelor of Nursing, and I am that mature student.

  

What is your favourite movie of all time?

Equal favourites would be “Good Will Hunting” and “Lost in Translation”. Come Christmas time, it’s “Love Actually”.

  

What is the biggest risk you have ever taken that has paid off?

Deciding to stay in Sydney and put myself through university is absolutely the best risk I have taken. It has been really tough financially but it feels good to work this hard for something and to do it on my own.

  

Hardest moment of your twenties so far?

I have really severe, debilitating, stage 4 Endometriosis that has significantly affected my well-being since I was 20 years old. The pain feels like this hot, deep, ache that takes over your entire pelvic region and like someone is trying to rip your uterus out of your stomach. It’s horrendous. After years and years of doctors not believing me I finally had excision surgery about 18 months ago, thanks to an incredible friend and specialist surgeon. Unfortunately, the pain has returned and is now affecting me 24/7. Some days are better than others so I guess I am lucky. I will be spending this Christmas and New Year’s recovering from another massive surgery next month. 1 in 10 woman have endometriosis and I guarantee they are the strongest woman you will ever know – if they tell you they hurt I promise you it is  far more painful than they are letting on.

  

Best moment of your twenties so far?

Travelling extensively through India with my two best friends when I was 22 and doing a solo trip through South East Asia and Sri-Lanka when I was 25.  Travelling to hard places teaches you a lot. I love that shit.

  

Who do you miss?

All of my family! I miss my two best friends Amy and Joey. Amy lives in Scotland with her lovely fiancé. She found out she was 6 months pregnant and her whole life changed so quickly. She raised her baby on the other side of the world without her friends and family around and she never once complained, doesn’t that blow your mind? She is the most incredible woman I have ever known and makes me a far better person. And Joey, that darling boy, there is no one in the entire world I can talk to like I can talk to him.

  

What do you like the most about yourself?

My confidence and ability to make friends easily and that I am a woman. I’m so proud of that.

 

What do you like the least about yourself?

I am so incredibly indecisive to the point where it gets in the way of my life.

  

If you had to get a tattoo, what would you get and where would you get it? If you already have tattoos, which is your favourite and why?

I have two tattoos that I hate. I am still unsure why, maybe it is because they represent who I was when I got them and I feel very different to that person now.

  

 How would your friends describe you?

Anna says: Caring, nurturing, opinionated, generous and sassy as hell.

 

How would your parents describe you?

Indecisive.

  

When was the last time you cried?

About a month ago when I was in so much pain from my endometriosis, I couldn’t move or walk because the pain was so bad and I had to go to work because I had no money. I called my girl Anna who sees me every day and she knew what to say – what a woman!

  

What are you afraid of?

That I may not be able to have babies because of my endo and living a life that’s the same for forty years.

 

If you could start your twenties again, what would you do differently?

Not many things. I have made some terrible decisions, hurt people and been hurt. But I think that’s what your twenties are all about. Oh yes, start saving early!